Love (part 3.) 💓💓💓

Last week, I told you about the first two types of love. Let's see what the other two are this week.

philia 

This is the love we have for our siblings and our parents—the love they have for us.

me and my Nangi

me and my Malli 

Nangi and Amma

Thaththa and Malli 

I think it's the same love we have for our pets.

me and Sung Sung

And also, some scholars say it's the same love we have for our country, but personally, I think the love we have for our country is more similar to agape than philia.

We can't find this love in every family. or they have this love, but other factors pile on top of it, and this feeling is gradually buried in family. examples: jealousy, economic issues

And, especially in south-east Asian countries like Sri Lanka, parents don't show their love to their children much; they show a lot of love when their children are babies, but as they grow older, they show less. and their children do the same. even the siblings. And those lovely smiles are limited to framed photos.

Actually, I think there's a cultural reason behind this, and also, this situation can vary from family to family in the same country.

a Japanese, single mom with her kids

ancient Kandyan chief family

a kid with his dads

So, while we live with them, show them how much you care for and love them. and show them how important they are to you. and you'll get the same. It's okay if you're not an expressive person; when you feel like hugging your Amma, akka, or girls—even your thaththa—it's okay; they love it when you do that, trust me. So go hug them or share your love with them.

(Well, this is my personal opinion. There are unlimited ways of showing love. so you can find your own way to show your love to them.)

- Nirash

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